Thursday, January 10, 2013
A New Chapter
Since mom made the decision to stop cancer treatment a few days ago, I feel like this opens a new chapter in this story. Even though it's taken a big emotional toll on us, we are prepared for the next stage in all this. For the past seven months or so, I've been mom's primary caregiver. I've come to realize that the best care for mom right now getting her into a facility that give her 24 hour care and comfort. Now is the time to step back a little from the care giving aspect and spend as much quality time with her as possible. I am still planning on being apart of all the decision making, and being there for my mom but right now I need to lean on the support systems I have available. My husband and I are the only family here and we've taken on so much since mom got diagnosed and it's come to a point where we can't do it ourselves anymore. But, at the same time, we know that the best care for mom is to rely on a system that can assist us.
Over the last week, we've had quite a few conversations with the social work team and medical staff about all this. We have a lot of decisions to make and a lot is still in the works. Sorting through the insurance has been such a big headache too! Apparently mom's insurance will not cover residential care hospice...yup, you heard me correctly. We found this out yesterday and I was ready to literally pull my hair out! It's just plain heart-breaking...we've been going through so much as it is and then to have this road block. But we will keep on looking at options and trudging on...